6 Reasons why you should stay away from nigerian men

In an article titled 'Things that tell your Nigerian
man is a big con' a Kenya writer who goes by the
name City Girl, dragged Nigerian men by their
balls. Choi. Below is what she wrote, first
published on Nairobinews
What is it with Kenyan women and Nigerian
men? What is it with those short, stocky
bearded West African mohines that make
Kenyan women move planets for them?

We have heard enough stories about how
Kenyan women borrowed loans for their
Nigerian boyfriends to pay for ‘containers
with goods worth millions’ stuck at the
port only for the Nigerian man to
disappear.

I know Kenyan women whose careers and lives
have come to a standstill after a Nigerian man
swept them clean, and I mean clean; car, house,
land, money… everything.

So today, ladies, I chose to address this topic,
once and for all. After this, I don’t expect any of
you to be conned by a so-called ‘romantic’
Nigerian man. I will only say this once.

Stay away from Nigerian men! All Nigerian men
are conmen. Repeat after me; “All Nigerian men
are conmen”. There are no exceptions here. When
you see a Nigerian man, run the other way. Don’t
stop to invoke the name of Jesus or pray. Just
take cover.

While you are at it, here are a few pointers you
need to look out for in a Nigerian man. If he
exhibits any of these traits, then you are dealing
with a riffraff.

1. He is too romantic: You have never met a man
like him. He treats you like a glass statue and
worships the ground you walk on. He is not like
the unromantic Kenyan men who don’t text you
back or return your calls. He calls you ‘baby’ all
the time except when he calls you ‘my queen’.
You have never been immersed in so much love
and affection. You are literally intoxicated in his
love. He will even paint your toenails and
shampoo your hair. Red flag.

He is fattening you up for slaughter. He is
warming your heart. Softening you up by leading
you to believe that you have found the one. It is
not humanly possible for a man to be 100 per
cent romantic, 24 hours a day, seven days a
week. That romantic Nigerian man is up to
something.

2. He throws money at you: No man in his right
mind will throw money at a woman. Kwani wewe
ni nani? But this Nigerian is the most generous
man you have ever met in your life. He even gives
you money before you ask for it because ‘you are
special and you deserve it’.

He debunks every myth you have ever heard
about Nigerian men swindling women off their
money. You relax and put your guard down. You
think that the Lord has finally smiled upon you
and given you a wonderful man who is not only
loving, but also rich. All those prayers you prayed
for a husband have finally been answered. Shock
on you.

He is making an investment and he knows what
he is doing. He will shower you with gifts and
money amounting to Sh1 million, knowing very
well that he will con you Sh3 million and make a
profit Sh2 million. Tax free.

One day, when you least expect, he will strike. He
will be in dire need of some Sh2 million for a deal
and because he has created an illusion of wealth,
you will readily give in. You will run to the sacco
and borrow some Sh2 million. That will be the
beginning of your downfall.

3. He moves in with you: So he gives you a cock
and bull story about how he is putting up with a
friend in Kileleshwa but has been unsuccessfully
looking for a house. You pity him and allow him
to put up with you in your house for a short while
before he finds a bigger house for the two of you.

Every week, he has a new excuse. “Oh, I found
one but it is too big.” “Oh, I found another one in
Lavington but I don’t like it.”

A week turns into a month and before you know
it, you are co-habiting with a Nigerian man who
can barely speak English. But because he treats
you so nice (and sometimes even washes the
dishes), you are blind to his antics. Be very
worried.

4. He drives your car: My friends told me this,
and I couldn’t believe it. How does a woman give
her man her car to go drinking out with the ‘boys’
as she takes a matatu to work?

Only a woman with a Nigerian boyfriend can do
that. So he uses cabs all the time and you think it
is just unfair for him to spend so much money on
cabs, yet you have a car. You lend him yours and
before you know it, he is dropping you to work in
your car, goes out drinking with his friends in
your car and suddenly that car is no longer yours.
Be warned.

A real man does not drive woman’s car and a
smart woman does not allow a man to use her
car to run his errands. If he doesn’t have a car,
let him use a cab or buy one.

5. He has mysterious ‘trips’: He purports to be a
businessman but you are not exactly sure what
he does for a living. He travels often to Dubai,
China, Thailand and Singapore for ‘business
trips’.

You don’t care what he does for a living mainly
because of all the goodies he brings you.
Lingerie. Expensive shoes. Perfumes. Dresses.
Bags.

He says he does business but has never really
taken you to his office, nor have you met any of
his business partners. Be especially wary of those
Nigerians who purport to sell gold or cars.
He hasn’t given you a business card, but you are
still okay with it because he seems flashy and
talks big. Silly girl.

One day you are going about your business and
the next day you are a suspect for a car-theft
syndicate and police will insist that you are
harbouring a criminal on Interpol’s watch list.

And you thought he loved you for your great
personality!

6. You run errands for him: He takes you on a
‘holiday’ to China and throws money at your feet.
He allows you to buy whatever you like because
‘you are special and you deserve it’.

On your way back, he tells you to carry a package
for him to deliver to his friend because he has no
space in his bag. You readily agree. I mean, after
all the bags he has bought you, you must have
some space. Foolish girl.

That man is using you as a conduit for drugs and
you only realise it when you are frantically calling
your aging relatives from the airport cells. The
Nigerian man is long gone.
You have been warned. Stay away from Nigerian
men.